We will, once again, be using "Kelso's Choices" to help teach our students how to solve small problems and/or conflicts. Please continue to reinforce the strategies at home, so together, we can develop a healthy life skill for our children to use at school and at home.
If you are not familiar with the program, please read below.
Kelso's Choices is a school-wide program to teach all students how to solve problems. Each grade level learned all of the strategies in the program, during a classroom guidance activity. Your child’s lesson(s) included, distinguishing between big problems and small problems, identifying feelings associated with each problem, identifying adults they can trust with a big problem, and practicing all nine of Kelso’s Choices for solving small problems.
Small problems are problems that children are mentally and emotionally strong enough to solve on their own. Big problems are problems that cause a child to feel unsafe, frightened, threatened, etc. The only solution for big problems is to report them to a trusted adult as soon as possible.
When a child has a problem, they determine if it a small or big problem. If the problem is small, students are encouraged to try at least two of the nine problem-solving strategies on their own. If, after two attempts the child is unsuccessful at solving the problem, it is time to ask an adult to help.
The problem-solving strategies include:
* Tell the person to please stop (the problem behavior)
* Make a deal (compromise)
* Go to another game
* Share and take turns
* Ignore (the problem behavior)
* Wait and cool off
* Walk away (from the problem)
* Talk it out (tell the person how you feel/what you need. Listen to what they have to say)
By using this plan throughout the school, our students are developing effective problem-solving skills that they can use in all areas of life. The strategies help them to deal with conflict in a positive manner and to make appropriate decisions. Knowing what to do, when faced with a problem, helps students, build confidence, build relationships, feel empowered and reduce the number of conflicts they have.